Parenting

Read through the Quick Assessment at the Right to think about some common struggles many parents face that can be resolved through counseling.

 

If the questions at the side of this page sound like something you have asked yourself or your friends, you are not alone.  We all face challenges in raising our children.  There are some logical rules and some basic behavioral principles that help make parenting fun again.  In this internet / computer age the rules of parenting are more serious.  There are lots of sources your children can seek for information on how to “be big” or act grown up.  It is important that we act first as parents to guide our children.  Parenting provides a standard from which the children can judge the rest of the world.  The actions and words you use influence the children in powerful ways. 


If you are having a problem with your child or children we can help.  We have many years of experience in parenting and in teaching parenting principles that work.  These principles are helpful in regaining order and peace in your home.  These principles build relationships between family members.  They bring the fun back into parenting again.  You do not have to have rebellious teenagers.  You can have close relationships with your children throughout their growing up years.  You can teach respect and receive it from your children. 


Understanding that your children learn from their mistakes helps take the burden off being a perfect parent.  Your children can learn while the cost is small for their mistakes before they have to face the same lesson as an adult.  Helping the family through chores can teach responsibility to a child.  We all have things we don’t like to do as children and adults.  The child can learn that making the task enjoyable by bringing along a friend, listening to music, or having a snack afterward can make their unpleasant tasks less burdensome. 


It is ok for children to cry when they don’t get their way.  Things in life often take effort or don’t go as planned.  Allowing them to feel their mad, sad, or anxious feelings with your support and understanding is more helpful than protecting them from negative feelings.  They can learn from this unhappy time that feelings are ok and you can handle more and more feelings as you grow up. 


There are principles that help you separate your love into care for your child and doing for your child.  It is important to know when you need to do something out of love and when you can hold back doing and still love.  It is ok to do it both ways and be intentional about how your relationship with your child expresses itself. 


It is possible to reconcile two different parenting styles in a home so that you have a united front with the children.  We can help you stop the manipulation the children do between you and your spouse.  We can help you raise responsible children and reduce the stress of parenting.  Learn how to tell if the problem is yours or the child’s and give the child’s problems back to him or her in a way that says you care about them growing up to be the best they can be. 


We have experienced therapists that can help you with children from toddlers up to adult children who have returned home to get help with their life. 


We understand your needs.  Contact us for your initial consultation.  We look forward to helping you regain the joy of parenting.  Haven’t you waited long enough?  We are here for you.  Call us at (208) 373-0790.

Quick Assessment

    1.  How do I get my child to do chores?
    2.  How do I get my child to do better in school?
      1.  How do I get my child to get along better with peers?
        1.  What do I do when my child will not obey?
          1.  What do I do when my child sneaks out?
            1.  My child is picked on at school, what can I do?
              1.  My child may be sexually active, what can I do?
                1.  My child does his / her homework but does not turn it in. How do you fix that?
                  1.  My children fight constantly. How can I get them to get along better?
                    1. My child is afraid to sleep in her own bed. How do I get her to sleep in her own room?
                      1. My child lies constantly, even when the truth would sound better. What is that about?
                        1. My child is going to start dating.  What do I need to look out for to keep him/her safe?
                          1. My adult child has moved back home.  How do I talk to an adult child about the rules in the house now?